Every one of you have misplaced what I said.
I too have these problems and had to deal with them before (long before) they were identified and labeled. I have a step son that was one of the early study subject in the 80s on ADD/ADHA and considered chronic, so my position does not stem from any sort of ignorance on this topic, it stems from experience.
People are given permission in today's world to be dependent on their illnesses or conditions vs. inspiration and reason to move forward and overcome those obstacles. This is what I mean when I said there were no victims in that many of us play that fiddle when in truth, we are merely volunteering to make it a much bigger condition or limitation than it really is.
AJ's complaint that I'd make such a big deal about grammar, punctuation and spelling being "silly" in itself reveals much truth to what I've said. For starters, far too many young people deliberately misspell, don't capitolize, punctuate, etc. as an act of rebellion and laziness. Take a look in this forum at how many people (and who, in particular) do these things with great regularity. Look at the style of their posts, the language used, the positions held, etc.
"We've" corrected this problem here and in other forums like the Bunny Hutch, by pointing out to young people (the primary folks doing it) that to succeed in this business you mustn't take such short cuts; internet short hand, etc. are not modes of communication to the people that actually know this craft or life in general that can help you out e.g. when we see this kind of action in any post, it is assumed that yet again, we have someone being lazy and rebellious.
I can empathize with someone in AJ's position but I will not sympathize or enable. As I've said, I've fought this particular battle personally and helped my son through it. It can be overcome if and when we choose to not let it be our excuse. And before it's brought up, I believe that about any limitation we may face in life, including the health issues I am presently going through. It is up to me as to if I am just going to give up and let my illness (MS) take over my life and destroy my dreams. OR, I can choose to say "NO" to what it keeps wanting to insist I do. In one position I'm the victim in the other, I have chosen to not voluntarily allow my illness to run shod over me...
If this upsets you AJ (anyone) I am sorry but I've found that it's guilt that causes the upset far more than the idea of my being harsh; we (human being on the whole) tend to get more upset when we identify with what's being said and recognize it, subconsciously, as a role we are guilty of taking on rather than seeing and working that bit harder, in being on the high road.
My words are no different than a coach pushing an athelete or a drill sargent encouraging his troops. Please take them in that spirit for that is the intent and not malice. Sometimes we just need a firm kick in the rubber parts before we get off our pitty-pots and move forward; sometimes this comes from another person, sometimes it's just life dealing us the dose of reality that must be dealt with.
