by SamGurney » Aug 22nd, '10, 01:19
Albert Einstein once said: 'I don't worry about the future, it comes soon enough'. Wise words from a man who spent most of his life working out the nature of time (...and trying to put the cat back in the bag after unleashing e= mc2). Anyhow, I disagree with Einstein on very little and I think he's right on this one too.
NLP will tell you about the well formedness of outcomes being crucial to achieving your desires; that is to say you must have a plan to get where you want to be, not rely on luck, not be ambiguous, state your outcome positivley... and so on. Even our very own Richard Wiseman commented on goals, suggests telling your family and friends for motivation and support, breaking your goal down into sub-goals, reminding yourself of the benfits of your goals, self rewarding for achievements and documenting progress. In fact, when I was talking to Derren Brown himself, he emphasised the importance of being ultimatley realistic with your goals otherwise they never get accomplished. Of course that is just common sense- but it is common sense which has proved itself.
Whilst this is all very nice, I'm with Einstein, Confucious, Schopenhauer, Lao Tzu... and I'm sure many others who advocated an ideology perhaps closer to asceticism. Lao Tzu said that ambition has one hand stretched out to the sky and one foot nailed firmly into the ground. Make of that what you will, but those familiar with Taoist scriptures will understand the notion of 'aimlessness'. Loosing ambition means that failure is not defeating and consequently there is actually less inhibiting one's path to what may previously have been a goal. Ambition for me then, is not an aim, but a way. Ignoring my enigmatic and pretentious aphorism, I am simply saying that you have to enjoy the journey as much as the destination;
For months and months there was this one book I wanted to get around to reading, I wrote it on lists and what have you, but because I had established in my head 'I will do it some time' I never did it. Eventually I realised that I kept procrastinating and my book was not any closer to being read, despite my best intentions and abandonned intending to read it. Then a few weeks ago, I picked it up for no reason- all books start with picking them up. And before that was the most difficult part, but I did not give it a second's thought. Once I was in the book, the aim of finishing it vanished and I enjoyed each page at a time. That is how you read a book.
The journey of a thousand miles, begins with a single step.
Lao Tzu
''To go wrong in one's own way is better than to go right in another's.'' Dostoevsky's Razumihin.