I was shocked to find I had nerves affect me recently. I used to be fine but then I had a few months without practice and when I came to do something, I could barely openly flip a card over, let alone elmsley or DL.
It is to do with confidence in yourself more than your ability. I knew full well I could do it but what got me was that my 2 months away from magic was down to a horrible earth shaking reminder that we are mortal and that life is very cruel. It ruined my outgoing side completely and left me quite unnerved and unsure of myself.
Getting over our insecurities helps with performance a lot. If you want to stop the nerves, you need to do things that take yourself out of your comfort zone and you need to throw yourself into the challenge. You'll find it isn't that hard once you rise to it.
We are all capable but for some bizarre reason some of us hold ourselves back. The daft thing is that we know we often sabotage ourselves mentally and yet we keep doing it. Getting rid of insecurities and feeling confident is the only was I know how to slow/stop it and if you can manage it and keep it in check, life in general will change for the better.
I think watching the Eddie Izzard documentary recently made me realise that it is all down to how thick skinned we are. Don't take bad feedback to heart and treat it as a step forward. You need to know what's wrong in order to improve yourself.
I suppose ways to combat it are:
- Practice
- Put yourself in the situation more.
- Compliment yourself more often (sounds daft but you have to believe in yourself).
- Sort the rest of your life out or remove current stresses.
- Start with a self worker or easier effect.
- Show someone you know reacts well (always good for confidence).
- Use the same mat/props as you practice with (more likely to work if you are comfy with them).
- Never apologise if it goes wrong... it's trivial and you've done nothing wrong.
- Learn to laugh it off and move on quickly. It goes wrong for everyone.
- Don't pin too much on a trick. It is frustrating if it goes wrong but then you know plenty more (says me who throws stuff in anger when practising).
*Sorry if this is a weird rant. It's something I feel strongly about and I might have gone off on a tangent.*
