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.....and if you do the cinema thing please dont do the Popcorn in your lap and a hole cut in the bottom "thing"!!
I'm still working off my community service from the last time!

lol - that is funny

but i have never thought that cinema first date is a good idea - maybe 3rd or 4th but not 1st. The 1st is meant to be getting to know eachother right? how can you do that if there is the cinema?

just my thoughts

I suppose that it is, rather than a generation issue, an age issue as well as a cultural issue. In Spain she would mostly look for her purse half-heartidly to pay her "share", but a guy will normally insist on paying on the first date. I just can't see myself splitting dinner on the first date. ONLY if we've been dating for some considerable time.

ID: very clever idea with the envelope. THAT is magic ... finding an envelope in the purse. Did you get that idea from a movie or something, or did you come up with it yourself? Anyway, it's creative (good). The risk is that first you have to put up with the first reaction from her part. I gather it is not too flattering. And then, another risk is she might understand the "tip" you give her as either go-get-something-nice-to-wear-cause-I-have-a-lot-of-money-to-spend sort of thing, or as a payment for future services. I have to say that if you don't run that risk, or don't care, it is brilliant.

If your budget is a bit tight, and you want to pay for the whole dinner, I don't think you would have any problem. However, chose wisely on who to buy dinner

Blapsing_Beard wrote:lol - that is funny

but i have never thought that cinema first date is a good idea - maybe 3rd or 4th but not 1st. The 1st is meant to be getting to know eachother right? how can you do that if there is the cinema?

just my thoughts

I perfectly agree with you! For your first date you have to try to do something you can share. Either talking (important), doing some leisure things, etc. Don't make my mistake when I was a kid: go to the movies and try to hold hands there. When the movie is over it can get a little awkward to try to talk about the weather Believe me. Been there, done that. So a dinner out is a good thing. On the leisure side I'm thinking about going on a pic-nic, go sailing or skiing... depends on what you have close to where you live.

when I first met my boyfriend, he told me he'd love to learn to windsurf. So our first date was at the lake with me teaching him how to windsurf. We both had a great time and really got to know each other. After that we went to the pub for a couple of drinks and a pub meal. Maybe not the most romantic first date but we both had a great time and really got to know each other well.

Lady of Mystery wrote:when I first met my boyfriend, he told me he'd love to learn to windsurf. So our first date was at the lake with me teaching him how to windsurf. We both had a great time and really got to know each other. After that we went to the pub for a couple of drinks and a pub meal. Maybe not the most romantic first date but we both had a great time and really got to know each other well.

I think it is a very good first date. You had fun together, and you grabbed something to eat in an informal fashion. I suppose the more formal dinner came later.

I dont think it matters what you do as long as at some point during the night you get to sit down and talk.

My first date with my wife was when she was on a date with some guy, we had spoke the night before briefly and I got her number. I was texting her during the day and she was saying how she didnt really want to go on the date anymore ( after having spoken to me ) so I walked in on her and her date.. didnt say a word and just took her by the hand and walked her out of there, and to another bar.. we chatted till the bar closed then I walked her home.... we took 4 hours to walk a 15 minute journey in the poring rain.. best date of her life..

Ah yes but the question is was it the best date of your life.

hehe...well, good news people. I've finally made some headway. After 4 months, this girl is finally talking to me and I'm on her good terms again

and, what's more, she gave me her new mob number of her own free will

if that ain't progress, I don't know what is

hehe.....seeee......good things comes to those who wait

Mystery's rule is "never buy anything for someone you've not had sex with"

I have two circles of friends I eat with. One, which tends to involve one person paying and then another paying another time on the assumption that "it'll all even out one day".

The other group which split the bill. It's a common sense split and everyone puts in roughly what they ate/drunk and the excess becomes the tip.

Both work fine for me.

I used to eat out with someone who would pay exactly what they ate, paid for their drinks separately and never tipped. I don't eat with them any more.

I tend to not offer to pay and to split the meal. My thing is were both equal sexes. Why not do equal things?

I dont care to "charm" a girl with some cliche act that nearly every man does. Anyone can pay for a meal, but little can make a night romantic with a little magic

best,

kirk

Ah gawd not romance. Keep your money in your pocket lads and ladess it will only end up tears. And think of the money you would have saved by not dating!

lindz wrote:Ah yes but the question is was it the best date of your life.

I married to her .. go figure!!

saying that.. i was given a deadline

Ive had my fair share of lasses, sisters, good girls, bad girls, best friends, mothers etc.. not worth the clothes they wear!! Thats why is better they take em off

Oh man this stellas makin me talk some shyte

Once i find someone that can accept me for being me, then i start to do romantic stuff like actually pay for various things. You would be surprised how hard that would be though with me being me and the refusing to be anybody else bit.

Up until then, it all tends to be pretty Dutch.

I.D wrote:I dont think it matters what you do as long as at some point during the night you get to sit down and talk.

My first date with my wife was when she was on a date with some guy, we had spoke the night before briefly and I got her number. I was texting her during the day and she was saying how she didnt really want to go on the date anymore ( after having spoken to me ) so I walked in on her and her date.. didnt say a word and just took her by the hand and walked her out of there, and to another bar.. we chatted till the bar closed then I walked her home.... we took 4 hours to walk a 15 minute journey in the poring rain.. best date of her life..

Perfect!