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Ok, in two days' time I am going to pop the question to my girlfriend Sarah. However, I wanted to do it in a magical way. I mean like I don't just want to give her a ring, but wish to do something like transform it from a coin first. My mind seems to be dead on ideas though. So could you kindly message back on way I could propose but with some magic incorporated in it? It will most likely have to be someting with the ring though. Please help!

Thanks, James.

the very best thing to do is - not bother with the magic; and concentrate on saying how you feel about her more than anything else...

telling someone how you really feel about them is the proper magic, not using a bit of flash paper or some mechanical method to bring the ring into play...

honestly!

forget about your magic for that one special moment, and concentrate just on the patter!

not what you wanna hear probably..but you'll soon get an influx of recommendations..there's been other threads too on this, i think in miscellaneous...

Well thank you for the reply man. I do respect your view. However, I did plan to concentrate on my feeling on her a lot aswell, but just thought that magic would make it a little more "special" if you're into all that romantic stuff.

I recently proposed to my girlfriend and, briefly, considered adding some magic. I realised that this was not a good idea, because:

1. It spoiled "the moment", by adding an unnecessary interruption or distraction.

2. While a proposal is theoretically about the couple, in real life it is more the woman's occasion. It wasn't a good idea to try and make it more about me.

3. There was no possible trick I could do that could compete with the real magic of that moment. EDIT: Or "enhance" it.

But, if you don't want to hear that, you could change a cheap ring into the real one.

You could borrow one of her rings and have the engagement ring in a nest of boxes. Think of the excitiement after she opens the last one and there is an engagement ring. You could even do a ring flight effect with her current one, and produce it after you've proposed to really take the shine off the important moment!

Thanks for the insightful answer, I like your ideas with the rings. However, you said that the magic may interruption during that "moment" but I planned on doing the magic before she knows I am proposing. For example, before I bend down with the ring I show a coin light it and then boom and big flame appears leaving the ring (or something like that). So I could then go on and propose. And it's these ideas that I need your help with.

I had thought of the various different points at which some magic could be done. Of the three, 'before' was definitely the best option, but I still didn't like it. It just felt like: I show off. Oh, now that I have done that amazing magic, will you marry me? Me, the clever bloke who just did that wonderful trick. When you tell your friends and family, be sure to mention that I did a clever trick first.

To be fair, you might be able to make the moment more memorable, but part of being a performer is knowing when to stop.

For example, take The Pendragons and their wonderful version of 'Metamorphosis'. The costume change is a lovely 'kicker' to a piece that they already do well. If she came out with a spectator's chosen and signed card stuck to her forehead, it would theoretically be even more amazing.

But it would be less effective dramatically. Let the moment make the magic.

Personally again I don't think it's a great idea, my missuss would have killed me if I'd done that as I'm alway's forcing magic on her to practise with so to do it before, during or after would have just killed it for her but on the otherhand it's not me proposing, so what about going to give her a rose and has you go to hand it to her (vanish the rose) change it into a ring then do the proposal would be visual. You could say something along the lines of I was going to give you a rose (Vanish) but your worth 10 time more so I decided to (produce ring) then do your stuff, oh and by the way good luck with it mate.

lindz wrote:Personally again I don't think it's a great idea, my missuss would have killed me if I'd done that as I'm alway's forcing magic on her to practise with so to do it before, during or after would have just killed it for her but on the otherhand it's not me proposing, so what about going to give her a rose and has you go to hand it to her (vanish the rose) change it into a ring then do the proposal would be visual. You could say something along the lines of I was going to give you a rose (Vanish) but your worth 10 time more so I decided to (produce ring) then do your stuff, oh and by the way good luck with it mate.

Thank you so much mate, that is a fantastic idea! I know a very clean rose vanishing effect which I can do and the production of the ring will be a peice of pi**. Thank you SO much!

No problems mate and good luck hope she say's yes, and remember we all want an invite.

IAIN wrote:the very best thing to do is - not bother with the magic; and concentrate on saying how you feel about her more than anything else...

telling someone how you really feel about them is the proper magic, not using a bit of flash paper or some mechanical method to bring the ring into play...

honestly!

forget about your magic for that one special moment, and concentrate just on the patter!

not what you wanna hear probably..but you'll soon get an influx of recommendations..there's been other threads too on this, i think in miscellaneous...

Wow, Iain, I never knew you were so romantic

When you start the build up to that important moment then you'll have enough on your mind without any magic.

My advice, along with others is not to dilute the occasion with a trick.

I also hope that she says yes - and let us all know

I think it would be wise to get romantic, pop the question in a proper way and hopefully, if she says "YES", after you both reach the ground, you could do some jiggery pokery...

I could imagine that she would appreciate you more, for being able to part the romance for her and the magic passion you are driven by.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

Thanks for all the replies guys, and I have now decided what I will be doing. Thanks to lindz- great idea! Although I do find the other comments helpfull aswell.

Ahhh, I propose tonight!!!

Good Luck mate,

Let us know how you get on!