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Oh no need to say thank you to me Beardy for the offer of help.

No honestly, don't mention it. I'm purely here for you to ignore as you wish,

Hense why I didn't write a lengthy reply as obviously would have been a waste of time.

You do my nut in sometimes !

Just know that all replies help in one way or another!

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IAIN wrote:i believe that when you are with someone for a long while - you end up mimicking one another in certain ways - and therefore 'absorb' part of them...its hard to explain that one actually...

Sounds like the theory on meme's to me.

As for the no afterlife, on a personal level, I struggle to understand why it matters. If you have fond memories of a person while they were alive then believing they are still alive somewhere holds little to no solace for me, in some ways I find the whole concept quite disturbing.

One thing in particular that always bothered me about an afterlife, let's say a couple fall in love at 20 or so and one of them dies young, say 25, the remaining person grieves, mourns, then finds new love and spend the next 50 years in a wonderful relationship before they die.

Does the person who died first meet them in this afterlife? Do they have some sort of spiritual threesome eventually? Is the afterlife like this one just different? Would the first person who died also have found someone new in magic heaven?

The whole concept is too illogical for me to deal with in the form it is portrayed. I mourn a loss as most do, the absence of someone who added something to your life will leave a gap that will take time to fill. I have no requirement to believe they have "gone to a better place" to fill that gap and equally do not require a scientific "afterlife" (genetics, memes etc.) to take the place of a spiritual one.

Hopefully that makes some sort of rambling sense.