by BrucUK » May 7th, '11, 11:36
My belief is that you need to get experience in other areas of social interaction before/as well as magic. Do some amateur dramatics, as someone else said - learn to dance with, and interact with strangers. Learn to do presentations to audiences. Learn to be confident in front of people, possibly as part of a group, THEN be confident in front of people performing magic. Most often in magic, you are on your own! There's no chorus line to hide behind, so learn the basic skills in a safe(r) environment.
Of course there comes a time when you need to do your first magic performance, but you need to have a grounding in other social skills first, and be confident of yourself. You will have enough worrying about the routines/sleights/patter etc.
Re your comments about what I call myself, I am not a "professional" magician, I have another "day job", my main income does not come from magic so I am not a "professional" magician. I am an amateur/hobbyist, but when I decide to, or get invited to work, I charge a fee - often a very good one! Example - professional golfers...pros earn their living from winnings, but amateur golfers can still win money at competitions.
I am a fee-charging amateur. I am much more comfortable with that then the multitude of magicians who have websites saying they are "professional" when they have other sorces of income. Saying that, I am professional in my attitude.
If you REALLY want to get out there, go and perform at charity shows, hospitals, old people's homes etc. They will usually be happy to have you there, and you can practice.
When you perform, you MUST care if things go wrong. You must care how you are going to retain your professionalism, because remember - most people have paid a fee that includes you being there. Think of it this way...."Come and see the amazing cc100, a magician who doesn't care if he screws up a trick in front of you!". They will care. Then they will start to comment and heckle. Have you practiced for that? What are your (rehearsed) outs? Are you going to try and "deal with" or "involve" the heckler - or are you going to just freeze?
I'm not saying you have to give up, but I am saying that social confidence, probably gained from another discipline or exposure is part of the solid grounding required to be a good performer. Many magicians do not think this is important, many do not bother, and that has (IMHO) an impact with the way people see us and what we do.
We pretty much ALL start off nervous like you, I know I did, and as said already in this thread, the nerves NEVER go, we just get better at dealing with them. However, years of presenting, performing, dancing and generall honing my people-facing skills made the first performance easier. Just think of this....as you work with cards, I am assuming you are going to be a close-up magician. Have you ever, really been "close-up" to a stranger, man or woman? Our culture does not normally allow for this, we usually keep a few feet away. You may need to be very close, so that you can load a card into their pocket, or (perhaps) put an arm around them as misdirection so that you can switch a deck. Are you comfortable with this? What if a lady grabs one of your sponges and puts it down her cleavage, what then? (My second gig....). What is your "out" then?
Many people will just say "Go out there and perform", I will not say that, I think too many magicians try and work in front of a fee-paying audience before they are ready and rehearsed in the entire package. It may work for you.
Either way, the only way to get social confidence is to force yourself into situations that may be alien to you. Magic is more than sleights. Even the simplest sleight will come undone when you add the element of an audience.
As they say in the armed forces, "No plan ever survives contact with the enemy".
Bruce