ah...also, I use a different presentation for those who care, to that of the instructions. For me, it just didn't work, the looking at the cards and looking into my eyes. It is something minor, but it works better for me, with my style, if they look at all the cards, then pick up "what I need to know" (if that makes sense

) and then focus on their memory. Then I cold read at will!
*"It happened in the last ten years..."
*"you weren't alone..."
*"you were with family...or maybe friends that were close friends, so they felt like family? Either ay I am getting family from you..." (I love that last one...amazes them every time...i say the family bit first, read their reaction, and if I am wrong, then I go on about the friend bit

)