TonyB wrote:I have two friends who were adopted. One got tremendous benefit from meeting his biological parents as an adult. The other got nothing from the experience, and cut off all contact. You won't know until you meet with him and talk to him.
If you decide that contact is good, remember that it does not in any way lessen what you feel for your adoptive dad and what he feels for you. That is a real bond.
And if you decide that contact is not good, then don't waste your time with guilt. You didn't walk out on him. He walked out on you.
Take your time making your decision, and make the decision that is right for you, not for him. All the best with it. Tony.
Make sure you talk to your Dad, uh step dad (no offence meant) as he is the most suseptible to pain.....when I found out i noticed the hardest thing is not upsetting either party not urself......as said be careful you have the power to build up and crush both parties.
